Sri Daya Mataji on Surrender (Only Love, p97-98)
Surrender is not a depressing state of resignation to sorrow, in which one glorifies suffering as a virtue by praying for it to come to him. The pious devotee who asks God to visit upon him all the suffering of the world, and who dwells on suffering as a means of pleasing God, is taking a rather negative approach to surrender. I believe in a positive approach: “I am the soul; my nature is blissful, powerful, and perfect. I will take care of this body, but I will not become attached to it, nor lament about any imperfection that develops in it.” If one has a headache, it is not wrong to acknowledge the fact and to take whatever logical remedy is available to him; but his consciousness should dwell on the truth that his real nature is separate, untouched by the discomforts of the body form he is wearing.